One thing I can say is that in 2015 we have no shortage of “stuff”. We save and buy and save and buy more of the things that we feel we need or might like. I can’t count the number of times I’ve bought something, absolutely convinced that its going to make my life so much easier. I then find myself pushing it into the back of a cupboard somewhere after a few weeks!
My children have caught this bug from me too. All of the adverts and posters and billboards have them asking for all sorts of toys as rewards for hifdh achievements.
Sometimes I’ve bought the things they’ve asked for. I find that after a while just like me, they soon grow bored with their new toys and push them aside. How often have we looked at the children of today and wondered…”why are they so unhappy with what they have? They have so much!”
In my experience, the things that really matter and make a massive impact on their lives are “experiences”. Things that they can do, or places that they can go to with you for rewards create long-lasting happy memories.
Our children will recall special family outings they they’ve enjoyed with microscopic detail remembering every bit of fun they had (including every piece of food they ate lol). We watch them describe these things with closed eyes and massive smiles on their faces as though it were happening all over again.
When giving rewards for hifdh, we now try our best to opt for things that involve the whole family. We search for things that use their whole bodies, all of their senses, things that they can see, smell, touch, taste and hear.
If we did buy something we would prefer it be something that we know would create a special experience like this, to help create a special memory for them.
An example of this would be a family game that we would play together and have lots of fun with. I still may buy a single toy if its something that I know they already enjoy very much.
A picnic in the park or a special meal just for them, even a day out of the city. It’s tricky to explain what I mean as each and every child is different. We all know what our own children enjoy better than anyone else.
Good memories don’t break or get thrown away, don’t need to be tidied or ever become boring. They travel with you wherever you go.
I pray that Allaah make all the rewards that you give, whatever they are, build wonderful memories for your children. Memories that they can look back on as adults and smile at what a positive and happy experience they’ve had memorising the Qur’aan. I pray that they try to recreate this with theirs and even other Peoples children as teachers one day and I pray that Allaah accept this from you as good deeds aameen.