Our Journey as a family towards memorisation of the Qur'aan

Bismillaah….

Assalaamu alaikum

stuff

One thing  I can say is that in 2015 we have no shortage of “stuff”.  We save and buy and save and buy more of the things that we feel we need or might like.  I can’t count the number of times I’ve bought something, absolutely convinced that its going to make my life so much easier. I then find myself pushing it into the back of a cupboard somewhere after a few weeks!

My children have caught this bug from me too. All of the adverts and posters and billboards have them asking for all sorts of toys as rewards for hifdh achievements.

Sometimes I’ve bought the things they’ve asked for. I find that after a while just like me, they soon grow bored with their new toys and push them aside.  How often have we looked at the children of today and wondered…”why are they so unhappy with what they have?  They have so much!”

In my experience, the things that really matter and make a massive impact on their lives are “experiences”.  Things that they can do, or places that they can go to with you for rewards create long-lasting happy memories.

Our children will recall special family outings they they’ve enjoyed with microscopic detail remembering every bit of fun they had (including every piece of food they ate lol).  We watch them describe these things with closed eyes and massive smiles on their faces as though it were happening all over again.

When giving rewards for hifdh, we now try our best to opt for things that involve the whole family.  We search for things that use their whole bodies, all of their senses, things that they can see, smell, touch, taste and hear.

If we did buy something we would prefer it be something that we know would create a special experience like this, to help create a special memory for them.

An example of this would be a family game that  we would play together and have lots of fun with.  I still may buy a single toy if its something that I know they already enjoy very much.

A picnic in the park or a special meal just for them, even a day out of the city.  It’s tricky to explain what I mean as each and every child is different. We all know what our own children enjoy better than anyone else.

Good memories don’t break or get thrown away, don’t need to be tidied or ever become boring.  They travel with you wherever you go.

I pray that Allaah make all the rewards that you give, whatever they are, build wonderful memories for your children. Memories that they can look back on as adults and smile at what a positive and happy experience they’ve had memorising the Qur’aan.  I pray that they try to recreate this with theirs and even other Peoples children as teachers one day and I pray that Allaah accept this from you as  good deeds aameen.

 

 

Comments on: "The Best Hifdh Rewards For Children Are “Experiences”" (7)

  1. thewindupbird said:

    Assalamu aleikum wrwb
    Your children seem so special, mash’Allah. I pray that Allah swt allows you and them to finish your hifdh insha’Allah!!

    • wa alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh, thats such a sweet thing to say my dear sister aameen and may Allaah grant you the same ❤ . They are very special to me yes the way all children are special to their parents. May Allaah bless you

  2. Umm Shareef said:

    Assalamu aleikum sister,
    I fully agree that our kids need to be rewarded for the progress they make and that experiences are so much better that buying “stuff” that so ofter just ends up not used or forgotten about.
    I would be interested to know if you ever use punishment as part of the equation as well? My boys know they will get the slipper if I feel they are not making enough effort with their hifdh or are being careless. I do think think it is important to remind them from time to time that learning Qur’an is an obligation and that not respecting our wonderful religion has consequences.

    • wa alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakaatuh,
      I’m so sorry about the delay of my response I was without an internet connection for a little while.
      Outside of surah Al Faatihah we view hifdh as a sunnah deed that is not an obligation but rather something that if they do it they will recieve reward and if they dont then there is nothing much like sunnah prayers etc. For this reason, we do not punish our children if they fall behind but just try to encourage them to do it and praise them if they do. I hope this helps. Baarakallaahu feeki ❤

  3. ummkhamsa said:

    Sometimes ‘stuff’ can work well too. The stuff that’s been great juz/presents have been mp3 players, an ipod nano for half the quran, bikes for s. Baqarah or juz Amma, a beautiful bookmark, lego, headphones, clothes, safe boxes, colouring/sticker books, shoes and books….
    Stuff that they value and its v handy when its stuff they need!!

    sometimes an experience is so much more as you say…. birds of prey/falconry, trains, parties with friends, safari trips,

    • I definetely agree sister, “stuff” that they truly value can definetely have an impact of their progress.
      You mentioned some really lovely ideas! I’m going to look into a safari trip in a few minutes in shaa Allaah, sounds like fun jazaakillaahu kayran ❤

  4. Umm Shareef said:

    I took my kids to a safari park as a reward for learning a new surah. They really loved seeing Allah’s beautiful creations. There were so many lovely Muslim families there mashallah. I chatted to some of the other mums and they were taking their kids there as a reward for doing well in madrassa too!.

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