Our Journey as a family towards memorisation of the Qur'aan


Assalaamu alaikum

I must say…I am a champion goal setter.  I can sit and set hundreds of goals about what I’d like to do and where I’d like to be in 10 years time etc.   The problem (you knew there had to be one right) usually comes when I try to follow them through.  Once the novelty of a  new goal  wears off, I have difficulty maintaining my motivation. Everything starts to sloooooow down and eventually stop!  I’m not saying that I’m a “Quitter”, but just more of a “Delayer” lol.

I never totally give up on my goals, but sometimes I just stop doing what I need to do.  Either that or I get too distracted, forget  and fall behind.

There are many things you can do to beat this problem and increase motivation like working with a partner/group, writing a journal and if you click –>here<–  a wonderful sister wrote a whole article about it maasha Allaah.

I’d like to share one of the stranger things we like to do in our family……

When we get stuck and we have tried all of the other methods we set up a penalty fine system e.g If I’ve been taking forever and a day to memorise a portion I would make an agreement with my Husband that I pay him a fine if I don’t do it by a certain time.  This has to be one of your last choices as you can’t do it too often.  As for the fine , for me, £50 or more is a good place to start. It’s not supposed to go to charity either, a person may well convince themselves that they are doing good if they end up having to pay the fine which kinda defeats the whole objective.

The main thing is that it’s something that you actually want to complete and you do care about it but just can’t seem to get it done.

The 2nd factor is that the fine needs to be something that stings a little, not something comfortable to do or pay.

May Allaah make it easy for us all Aameen

Comments on: "Do The Work…Or Pay The Penalty Fine!!!" (2)

  1. As’salaam alaykum
    Interesting as I just implemented a similar system with a my daughter. She loses a toy.

  2. Reblogged this on attached mum and commented:
    Good Article

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