We often make excuses for not doing the things we’d like to do. These are usually a result too much thinking. We sit and concoct a personal story loaded with excuses as to why we cant get it done. The longer you sit the more detailed it becomes and the more believable it is and the main person you’re trying to trick… is yourself.
Thinking is something that is generally thought of as a productive process. I personally believe this to be the opposite or rather when its done to excess, it can be extremely destructive. A lot of the time when we find ourselves feeling angry, sad or depressed about ourselves it’s the result a long thinking session. Many of us are guilty of sitting and painting very detailed pictures of problems in our minds until they are so vivid we can actually feel the pain attached to them.
Sometimes these problems don’t actually exist but we’ve chosen to take our thoughts to the land of “what if…” to give a whole new range of twists to add to the plot.
This is a lengthy subject so I’ll focus on my main point.
There is a very easy way to combat your “thinkaholic” behaviour. The key to ridding yourself of this bad habit is simply taking ACTION and try to do something about the problem.
Next time you find yourself making an excuse, firstly MAKE DUA. Ask Allaah to aid you in your situation. Allaah tells us in suratul Ghafir ayah 60* And your Lord says, “Call upon Me; I will respond to you.” so don’t miss this important step as Allaah has power over all things and without Him we are capable of nothing.
Then, try to think about a step you can take towards the solution. Something you can do about it. If you feel like you can’t do that, a lady called Byron Katie wrote a really nice childrens book called “Tiger-Tiger, Is It True?: Four Questions to Make You Smile Again (click the link to see it on Amazon). In it she encourages you to question yourself when you make excuses.
She says when you get to that point where your thoughts are steering themselves in a negative direction you should ask yourself these 4 questions:
1. Is it true?
2. Can you absolutely know it’s true?
3. How do you react, what happens when you believe that thought?
4. Who would you be without that thought?
Then she encourages you to turn the situation around for the better.
So how does this relate to us?
Well as an example, next time you think to yourself “I have no time to memorise ” You’ll then have to ask yourself “Do you really have no time? Did you really have to pick up that magazine? or watch that video? or have that extra cup of tea? or make that phone call? you’ll have to question yourself.
I’m going to try to implement this method with my family and may well put a poster of them on the wall as a reminder.
If you try it, let me know how you get on.
and all true success is from Allaah